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A Painful Decision, Without Regrets

Twenty years ago, I became pregnant after having a condom break during sex with my then-boyfriend. This, despite also taking the morning-after pill. I learned about the unwanted pregnancy two weeks after graduating from college and three months before I was scheduled to leave the country for work as a Peace Corps Volunteer.

I was raised in a strict Catholic family where sexuality was bad and abortion was murder. At that point in my life, I couldn’t imagine living without my family. As I saw it, I had two choices: abortion (kept as a lifelong secret) or suicide.  Although not an easy process to navigate alone, I chose the abortion.

I have no doubt that I would have resorted to any and all desperate measures to end that pregnancy including ending my life. This will be the unfortunate truth for many post-Roe women.

I am now the mother of three beautiful children and also a physician. Although the abortion has left me to reckon with years grief, guilt and shame, I am infinitely grateful that it was safe and legal. I grieve the circumstances of my abortion, but I have never regretted making this choice.



2 thoughts on “A Painful Decision, Without Regrets”

  1. Pamela Adelstein

    just wanted to send a note of support
    as I tell my patients, “You are the expert on your life. I will support you on your decision”

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