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Matching Rings

Joy Liu

The room is stuffy, but the woman is shivering.

Her husband stands by her bedside. An interpreter that they've hired to stay with her day and night stands at the foot of the bed. And then there's me, the doctor (I'm an intern), waiting to deliver one of many sad speeches I must give today.

Smiling wanly, she struggles into a sitting position and shakes my hand.

Even with a diagnosis of metastatic stomach cancer, she has movie-star looks. She's only twenty-six--the same age as me. I can imagine her stepping out of a red-carpet premiere in Shanghai. Instead, having hired personal interpreters and taken a flight halfway across the world, here she is in this hospital bed, waiting expectantly for me to tell her what we can offer her.

I look at the clumps of downy hair on her head, at her gaunt face, at her hands. She is wearing a wedding band. With a shock, I see that it's the same design that I picked out two weeks ago.

This is what I'd planned to say: "We feel honored that you traveled all the way from China to this American hospital. Unfortunately, there is no chemotherapy or surgery that we can offer you at this point. We should talk about maximizing your quality of life in the time you have left."

My throat closes up. I'm thinking about the snowy day my fiancé and I went to Tiffany's. He'd wanted me to get a glitterier ring, but I insisted on a band that would be elegant in its plainness and last for decades, for as long as I hoped to be married. I wonder if she chose hers for the same reason.

"I'm nauseous all the time," she says and points at her belly, which is swollen with cancerous fluid. "It's like I'm pregnant again."

"You have a child?" I ask.

"A son," she says proudly. "He's three months old. I found out about the cancer when I was pregnant. They told me I should think about whether I wanted to keep the baby…but that never even crossed my mind. He's with my mother in China."

A son. This is the moment where my script fails me. I stare at her as if seeing her for the first time.

"It hurts," she said, putting her hands on her belly. "I know I should eat more, but I can't." She flinches as another spasm of pain passes through her, then she doubles over and dry-heaves.

I sit down on the bed, take her hand and let her squeeze as tight as she wants. It's the only thing I can do.

"We can give you something for pain," I say gently.

"She hasn't asked for anything, but I really think it would be helpful," her husband says, with an anxious look.

She whimpers and squeezes my hand again. We sit for a long minute, time stretched out by her pain.

What did she dream of doing with her life? I wonder. What is it like, instead, to slowly die in a foreign country, with her baby 8,000 miles away?

I think about the coincidence of our ages, and of our rings. I'm ashamed to admit it, but right now, I'm filled with terror. One twist of a gene, or a dose of environmental toxins, or pure luck, separates us. In a few months, one of us will be getting married, and the other will probably be dead. I have no way to stop it. Never has my white coat felt more like a sham.

Her painful spasm passes. I put my other hand over hers.

"Sometimes when fluid builds up in the belly, we can drain it using a big needle," I tell her. "But it'll come back. It may be helpful to use a special tube to drain it instead. What do you think?"

"They told me about that at home," she says. I can tell from the look in her eyes that my answer wasn't the one she'd hoped to hear.

"I think that's our best strategy for now--that, and making sure you're comfortable," I say, trying to sound reassuring. "But let's take it one step at a time."

I let go of her hand and stand up. I take a step away. Should I say it?

"I love your ring. It's beautiful."

She smiles. She touches it lightly with her other hand. "Thank you."

I excuse myself to go put orders into the computer.

By the time I circle back, and before I've had a chance to touch base with my team, the attending physician has told her that there is no cure and explained what palliative care means. Each time I enter the room, she is looking somewhere far away. Her expression is heartbroken.

Nothing I say will change what is happening or give her the time she so desperately wants, so all I can offer her is a light touch on the shoulder and a few moments spent sitting by her feet as we wait for the sedative to take effect.

My time on the ward ends the next day, and I'm shuttled off to the next rotation; I never see her again. But some patients stay with you forever.

Sometimes when I adjust my ring, I see her pale hand superimposed on mine. I'd like to believe that she was not in pain at the end.

I have to.


About the author:

Joy Liu, a graduate of the program in liberal medical education at Brown University, is an internal-medicine resident at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center in Boston, MA. She enjoys traveling, new foods, a good piece of speculative fiction and reading about the history of medicine. "I have a long-standing love of creative writing, and I found writing to be therapeutic during medical school and residency. This particular story is one of the defining memories of my intern year and continues to inspire me to provide comfort in whatever way I can." She recently had a couple of pieces published in the Intima and has written a fantasy novel, Watermark.

Story editor:

Diane Guernsey

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# Janice Mancuso 2017-06-21 17:43
Had I read this elegant essay on Fri, my comment would have been short and echoed the others… words of gratitude to Dr. Liu for living up to the ideals of her noble profession. I may have even added an Osler quote as I'm wont to do. Instead, I'm compelled to say more.

My good friend, an ER doc, called Sun am on his way home following "one of the worst shifts ever." He had been blindsided & assaulted. Not by a patient & not physically, Rather, verbally by a colleague, a 40+ yo surgeon. He raked him over the coals for bothering him with a (strictly speaking) non-surgical dilemma.

My friend called Sat seeking a way to keep a terminal cancer patient in the hospital. He lived alone, needed help caring for himself, and had no ins.

"Don't ever do that again," the surgeon exhorted.

"What about compassion? What about his humanity."

"I Don't Do Humanity."
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# Janice Mancuso 2017-06-21 18:14
Those words have lingered for 3 days. Maybe now I can replace them with the image of Dr. Liu's light touch on her patient's shoulder.
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# Gail 2017-06-18 13:01
Please keep writing. I believe you are giving voice to the very challenging and moving experiences we need to hear.
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# Sarah Smith 2017-06-17 23:30
So touching. I felt your compassion, and pray she felt it too.
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# Muriel Murch 2017-06-17 07:02
But some patients stay with you forever.
Yes they do. Thank you for keeping her in your heart and in your practice.
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# Henry Schneiderman 2017-06-16 21:24
As Pris says, beautifully written and full of compassion. Please consider doing a fellowship in palliative medicine. You are training in one of the epicenters of this work. And of course, keep writing; you have the gift. Today is graduation day for our R3s at the U of Connecticut IM residency and this to me is a capstone of the kind of insight and impact, both symptomatic and emotional, that a wonderful house officer can accomplish even in the harshest illness context.
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# Pris Campbell 2017-06-16 19:55
Beautifuly written with compassion.
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# Sandra Miller 2017-06-19 12:31
Stunning, captivating. I love seeing physicians who nurture their writing and are becoming productive in the writing world.
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